In these challenging times, it can feel like things are out of your control. We might wonder what we as individuals can do about the economic cycle or decisions made by organizations bigger than we are. But the truth is that we are always in charge of one thing and that is ourselves. Even in difficult times, there is hope within us.
I once coached a woman who was in a period of intense transition. She’d been let go from a position she loved. It was unexpected and the sudden change was overwhelming. It’s natural to feel a loss when we suffer disappointments like losing a job. But if we linger in the disappointment, it can lead us away from our goals.
When she came to me for coaching, this woman had already been sending out job applications and she was disappointed in the results. Our first step together was to rebuild her self-esteem. Together, we reviewed her skills and personality traits, and began fostering her ability to lead herself.
As her self-leadership skills grew, so did her opportunities. Before each interview, we rehearsed what she would do and how she would present herself. She learned through practice to focus on what Napoleon Hill calls definiteness of purpose; in other words, the one thing she most wanted to accomplish with her life. Instead of concerning herself with what she could no longer do, she put all of her energy into what she could do now. It turns out she could do a lot.
She got the job she wanted and this happened even though there were other applicants whose skills looked better on paper. This is the power of definiteness of purpose. People who have it bring an enthusiasm that others want on their team. But none of this would have happened if she hadn’t looked forward and focused on her dream.
Focusing on our dreams does more than keep us aware of opportunities. It helps us build hope and makes us more resilient. Make no mistake. Hope is not something other people give to you. It is something that you give to yourself. Here’s how:
The best is yet to come. It starts with you.